I Haven’t Taught My Son The ABC

As the end of the summer holidays is rapidly drawing upon us I am starting to think more about Cody starting full time school in September.  I’ve been pushing it to one side because in all honesty I’m not ready for him to go.  I know that sounds pretty selfish on my behalf.  It’s not that he isn’t ready. He can’t wait and is so excited to wear his uniform and go to big school.  But to me he is my baby and the thought of him going to school full time at what feels like such a young age (4 years 4 months) I am finding really hard.

Lois started school the day after her 5th birthday.  A whole 8 months later than Cody will be and it’s a massive difference at this age. It occurred to me that Lois knew her ABC, could write her own name, knew the names of shapes, etc, etc, before she started school. Cody doesnt know his ABC. He can’t write his name and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know the names of shapes.  I started to worry that I haven’t given him the best start to his school life.  I haven’t got him prepared for it. He doesn’t know the basics that both his older sister’s knew.

But you know what? That’s ok.

What I have taught him is how to share with his friends.  To help someone when they need him.  He is a kind and caring boy who at just 4 years of age asked me to ring his best friend’s mum after preschool to check his friend was ok as he’d had a fall in the playground. He’s a boy who sees the beauty in nature, stopping to count the caterpillars on the hedge during the school run. He admires the colours of the sunset and asks me to take a picture so he can show Nanny. He has incredible strength and will challenge himself to climb the toughest play apparatus because he believes in himself.   He will study the instructions of the flat pack shelving unit I am trying to build and work out from the pictures what the next piece is and where it needs to go. Not only that but (under supervision!) he will use the hammer and the screwdriver and help me to build it.  He mucks in and works as a team.  He has love in his heart, kindness, confidence and a wicked sense of humour.  That’s all that’s important. The rest will soon follow 💙

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14 thoughts on “I Haven’t Taught My Son The ABC

  1. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons says:

    I couldn’t agree more with this. Those skills are so important, and the alphabet can wait. I think children learn things at the right time for them, and they start school so early these days. When I started school I was 5 which was the normal age then, and although I could read already (my Mum was a teacher and I was a bookworm who lapped up reading), hardly anyone else in my year could. I think the expectations we put on children when they start school these days are crazy. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • admin says:

      I think 4 is far too young to be starting school and expecting children to read and write. I know some kids are ready earlier than others but I think more time at home in the early years instead of rushing parents back to work would be a huge benefit x

  2. Laura - Dear Bear and Beany says:

    I agree. Both my daughters are august babies and my eldest started school shortly after her 4th birthday. I have to remind myself that there are children in her class who are practically a whole year older than her and at that age it makes a big difference. They all learn at different times. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • admin says:

      My daughter turned 5 the day before she started school and the difference between her and some of her classmates was (and still is!) enormous!

  3. Emma T says:

    Being ready for school and is so much more important than the academic side. N could only do the first 3 letters of his name, but it doesnt’ take long for them to learn #sharingthebloglove

  4. Lucy At Home says:

    Kids learn so much stuff from being at home. It’s not just the ABCs that are important – how about learning how to make a sandwich or do the washing up? How about the names of common flowers or what it’s like to feel sand between your toes? These are things that they pick up naturally while they’re having fun. There will be plenty of time to sit studying in a classroom #sharingthebloglove

  5. Jaki says:

    They do everything in their own time don’t they? My little bit started school last month too and I’m so surprised by how much he’s learnt in such a short space of time. Their brains are like little sponges. #sharingthebloglove

  6. Sarah says:

    My eldest started Reception this year – his birthday is July so he was only just four. He loves numbers and sums, and he knows all his letter sounds but we haven’t pushed them on him, it’s been his own interest that has spurred him on to learn. He can write his name but not much else but I’m not worried – that’s what school is for after all. I think all kids learn what they want to at their own pace and they all get there in the end. My little one is an August baby so he’ll be even younger when he starts – like his brother though, we’ll just let him learn what he wants to. #SharingTheBlogLove

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